Should You REALLY Be Weighing Yourself? – By Charlotte De Curtis

Should You REALLY Be Weighing Yourself When It Comes To ‘Weight Loss’?

The age old question that I, still to this day, get asked by tons of women who re frustrated with all the crap that comes with weight loss…

“Should I be weighing myself?”


Now, here’s my take on weighing yourself on the weighing scales..


If you’re putting all your hopes and dreams into this magical number that the scales are giving you?


The same magical Holy Grail number, that you believe is gunna make you happy, find you a man and turn you in to Beyonce when you reach it?


THAT same number you always strive for?


If this is you..


It might be time to take a step back away from the scales and stop putting all your value and self worth in a number.


Look, your weighing scales don’t have a heart and a pulse, so why treat them like they do? So many women I see define themselves by that ‘magical’ number. “If I can just reach that number I’ll be happy”.


Moving your weighing scales to different places in the house, gradually de robing down to your bare naked body, followed by a bonus wee.. All to try and get to a number you like seeing more than what the scales are telling you.


It’s kind of insano behavior when you think about it.


Scales measure the weight of the mass that stands on it but it doesn’t tell you what that mass actually looks like… 


(Not to mention what a funny, kind, intelligent person you are..  yet you’re defining your whole self by a number?)


Thing is, you CAN change your body without it making much difference on a scale.

Some people reflect well on a scale, others don’t… It’s that simple.


So when it comes to measuring your progress be sure to use other methods too like pictures, bodyfat with calipers (that I do with my girls), tape measure, how your clothes fit, how your feeling, your health, your sleep, your mood.


Don’t hold your self worth on a number because I can guarantee it will become an unhealthy obsession that you’ll never be satisfied with.. 


Believe me, with over 10 years of working with ladies, just like you, I’ve seen it alot.


You weigh yourself Monday morning and see a number that you were literally dreading after ‘being good’ all week but ‘slipped up’ at the weekend so you clung on to any kind of hope you could muster for a lower number as you step on to the scales (after you’re bonus wee obvs) with one eye closed as you brace yourself for what it’s going to say, which you know will subsequently MAKE or BREAK your day.


Lo and behold you  feel like shit, a failure for not being able to stick to your stupid diet, guilty that you were crabby with your kids because you were hungry and stressed. Not to mention all that time away from your family, slaughtering yourself at the gym for nothing..


So you think ‘What’s the point?’


^^^ But in reality that’s not a true reflection of what’s going on, you’re just holding your entire self worth on a number, given to you by a heartless, soulless piece of plastic.


With my girls, I weight train (using barbells and dumbells) with with all of them because you can quantify the progress in other ways.

Not to mention, there’s something really empowering about being able to hit a new squat PB or powering your way through reps and sets you never in a million years thought you ere capable of.


Now, another thing that most people don’t get to grips with is that the actual weight of your body and your body composition are two completely different things (which I’ll explain in tomorrow’s video in the Sista-hood group, if you’re one of my one to one clients).


You wanna make yourself a smaller version of what you’ve got? 


Do cardio.


You wanna actually change the shape of your body, create curves and firm up your problem areas, whilst getting leaner and unleashing your inner Bad Ass?


Weight train.


For the girls I train,  it gives them so much more self worth and value to their journey, especially when it comes to fat loss and actually being HAPPY with your body.


Learning to detach from emotional eating and looking at food differently because you see it as fueling your body for training, no longer feeling shame and guilt around foods and actually ENJOYING it (I know.. enjoy food? wtf) because you have other goals to be proud of and ya can still see your body changing.


This is the pinnacle of WHY I put together my flag ship SOS programme and exactly what it teaches in the 8 weeks.


You aren’t pinning your life and soul on a number on a scale, you’re doing something you’re proud of, dropping true body fat and LOVING the changes that come with it.




Do I think you should be weighing yourself??


Well, it really is your call


Love Char xxx 

Why You’re Setting Your Self Up To Fail On Your Weight Loss Journey

Why You’re Setting Yourself Up To Fail On Your Weight Loss Journey, A Full Face Of Contour and Resting Judgy Face

Eye Roll.
Don’t Care.

You. Are. Notttt proclaiming your undying love for the man of yo’ dreams that you met two weeks ago (again)??


Your dog’s not even that cute

Neither are your kids.




What with your curly blow, full face of contour and strategic side boob on show in your cheap Ann Summer’s silks? … Off Ya F*ck, Hun.


New relationship??
**Raises eyebrows**
That’ll never last..

Don’t Care.
Don’t Care.

OMFG. …A Puppy that does a John Travolta impression??


I gotta get me one’a THOSE.
Ok let’s Google Dancing John Travolta Puppy.



Now up until recently THIS was how I was setting up my day.
My little, all be it slightly up turned, button nose in everyone else’s shit.

(And before you say it, I already know what a non-judgmental joy I am to be around, so don’t worry yo’ little self, Hun)

I mean, do I really give a shit what Sandra (who came to my spinning class 1 time, eight years ago) is having for her lunch?

No I don’t.


Is a dancing dog REALLY contributing to my day?

No it’s not.


Nor is the guy I went to primary school with who is embarrassingly indiscreet about ALL THE SEX and all the out of this world INSANO fun that he’s 100% DEFINITELY having, with his new rebound bird.


I mean, c’mooooon, if you’ve gotta force it, it’s probably shit…

And also probably for the benefit of your ex…
Just a guess.


Anyhooo, like I said … Joy to be around.




So what’s my point in all this?


Now ya know how many times I see this…


“You’re eating Wheet-a-Bix for breakfast Sandra? You’re going to hell”


Followed by a smug…


“MYYYYYY personal trainer says that you should be eating a PROTEIN based breakfast for optimal results”
(even though I don’t actually know what optimal results look like, since I’ve looked exactly the same as I did when I started training with MYYYYYYYYY personal trainer twelve months ago and have to eat my breakfast of stewing steak holding my nose)


I mean, nothing gives you a ‘breakfast complex’ like advice from some passive aggressive, Carpet Carrying Avenger who looks like he eats a full baby cow for breakfast whilst staring in to the eyes of it’s mother.


Yes TEXT BOOK says a protein based breakfast will keep you satiated till lunch time.


But guess what, it doesn’t work for everyone.


And I have a confession…


I don’t eat a protein based breakfast.

(Yes, I know, I’m going to hell with Sandra)


And neither do some of my clients.


And here’s where a lot of the FB- PT- Text Book Gurus get it wrong.


You think eating a few scrambled eggs for breakfast is gunna change your life and turn ya in to Megan Fox?


I mean, if it works for ya..

You get down witcha bad ‘scrambled egged’ self.


But for most women I work with
(the ones that have kids, jobs and social lives..

Like REAL ACTUAL women- probs just like you)
… need to look further than the breakfast part and take stock of what’s going in in THEIR whole morning..


I’ll have you consider that’s exactly what sets you up for the day..


Is the first thing you’re doing in the morning reaching for your phone from under the pillow and reading everyone else’s negative bullshit. The same bullshit that can put you in a bad mood just from the read of a certain person’s status?


Is Facebook also the last thing you’re seeing at night before you go to sleep?


Do you snooze your alarm 8 times before you drag your tired arse outta bed then survive the first part on coffee to function?


Do you run round after your kids, as soon as your eyes open in a mad panic to get everyone where they need to be on time?


Do you then skip breakfast entirely?




Do you make a conscious effort to take some time for yourself?

To compose yourself?

Even if it’s just five minutes?
To wake up and get fresh straight outta bed?


I’m not talking jumping in a cold shower followed by some yoga and three hours of meditation… because REALLY?


That’s something that 20 year old, newly qualified PT’s with no kids, who still live at home with their mum and dad, say…

 Only to stress you out with guilt and feeling of inadequacy because THAT SHIT just isn’t realistic for most REAL LIFE women.

 I mean, while we’re at it, waking up next to Tom hardy would be great too, right?!

I’ll have you consider that the way you set yourself up in a morning can set you up for your WHOLE day.


I’ll also have you consider that the outcome of your day can be determined by your morning routine.



You’re knackered from scrolling FB till late, so you snooze your alarm then have five minutes on FB where you see a passive aggressive status from that annoying knob head at work which immediately puts you in a bad mood.

You’re short with your kids ‘cause you’re grumpy, feel gross cause you have’t left enough time for a proper shower..

kids get to school JUST on time but you’re late because in the haze you forgot your laptop. At work you bump in to the knob head which reminds you of his arrogant pig status.. again bad mood.


You’re so knackered from all the rush and stress from work that you could have dealt with fine if you could just get your stupid self up out of bed and didn’t spend too long on FB at night, so you now skip the gym and have a comfort food tea and an obligatory few glasses of wine to ease the stress and make you feel better… and you’ll try and be better tomorrow (again)


Now with the gals on my SOS programme this is the EXACT stuff we work on, along with nutrition and training, to get to the ACTUAL bottom of why you’re STUCK and the ACTUAL things that are hindering your progress and in reality it’s probably not what ya thought it was.


I ask the questions then WE, together, plan it out and do the work.


If ya need a push in the right direction ya can apply for SOS here until the 20th March when the doors close…


Love Char ‘Judgy Mc Judgy Pants’ De Curtis


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